Communicate

Are you having problem communicating with any one or everyone?  No matter how hard you try it just is not working & is adding to a bigger problem?   The problem could be girl vs boy language or something else.   Do you know how to tell the difference?   How do you fix the problem?

Communication is a skill that can be learned at any age,  not everyone knows of the skills, or they only know part & some do know all of the skills.    No matter where you fit in that, communication can be tricky when trying to communicate with others, whom may be at different levels of communication.   

Do you know how to keep communication going when you & the other person don't see eye to eye on a subject matter, when emotions tend to be high or you don't care for what is being talked about?  How do you keep communication going?

To communicate is to get someone to understand what you are thinking & feeling.  To communicate is not to get them to go a long with whatever you are thinking & feeling, but to understand where you are coming from & they are doing the same with you.    

Remember your opinion/thought/feelings/emotions are all yours & not everyone else.  We can all have our own & still be able to communicate with each other & not have relationship break downs. 
Communication works best when everyone is not over flowing with their emotions.  All of the relationship wiring in your head needs to be up & running.   Our emotions, when over flowing, can get in the way of this.  

If you like to learn about better communication, contact me.

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Merry Christmas!!!

Merry Christmas!!!!   Hope this day is filled with love, peace & joy for you & your family.    We hope you get what you wanted under the tree.   From all of us to all of you!

Dry Winter Air

What to do when the winter air is dry.  Your skin is drying out, cracking, flaking & itchy. Your hair is frizzing, dry, static filled, flying away & not lying flat? 

You can spend tons of money & time on product to put on your skin & hair.  Sometimes finding the right product for your her problem & type of hair you have.   I found that some of the products out there "fixed" the one problem but made another.   So what do we do then?

I researched & tried different stuff.  In my research I found some good tips to apply to me at least, but will share in case you had no idea about them.

First tip: Turn the temp on the shower water down.   I understand the  need for a hot hot shower.  I have been there.   But for the hot hot shower time keep your hair out of it.   With the cooler temps it will help with the itch dry skin.   

Second tip: After the shower towel dry your hair & add a little oil.  Yes, oil!!  You can use olive oil, coconut oil or jojoba oil, just for some examples.  When you use oil, please start with a very small amount, you can add more as you go.   Start with the ends & work your way up from there. I keep the oil away from my scalp. I don't need extra oil there.  I needed it at my ends & up from there.  Comb or brush your hair from the ends & work your way up.   This will help spread it through your hair. Rub the oil in your hands to put it on your hair.   Then you can spread it on your face if you needed it there or other places on your body.

Third tip: Have a spray bottle with water in it, in the bathroom.   I spray water on my dry hair to help get rid of the dry frizz fly away & then style it.   Then through my day, when I go to use the bathroom after I wash my hands, I use the water from my hands, I apply it to my hair.  The reason for the touch ups is great because my hair is getting dried out during the day & needs a little refreshing drink.

Fourth tip: Wash hair less!  And skip the conditioners. Conditioners may be adding to your problem.   Over washing stripes the natural hair oil from your hair & dries it out.  

Fifth tip: Skip the blow dryer.  If you must use it, use the lower heat temp for a shorter time.  If you use the curling Irons, Flat Irons etc. it's drying out our hair.  I understand you use them for styling your hair.    Look into different hair styles that don't use them.    Youtube different hair styles, you'll be surprised how many videos are out there, type in your hair length & hair do's!!

Sixth tip: Give your hair a break from being styled & everything else you might do to your hair & let it rest a day or two at least a week.   Wear it down, or put a scarf/bandana on it! 

Seventh tip: What are you eating to build up your hair from the inside out.  It will help your skin too!  Drink lots of water!  Balanced healthy diet will help your whole body & heath. 

Don't look for results to happen overnight.   Some damage might take time to repair your hair & fix the problems.  I did not touch to much on skin care.  These tips can help some with the dry skin in the winter.  Some skin problems may need a little different care & help.  It's a little starting point for skin care.   Enjoy your journey to healthier hair & skin.

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Principles

Principles, here are some descriptions from Merriam Webster Dictionary:

principle

• a moral rule or belief that helps you know what is right and wrong and that influences your actions
•  a basic truth or theory : an idea that forms the basis of something
•  a law or fact of nature that explains how something works or why something happens
   

Here is a definition of principle:
1 a : a comprehensive and fundamental law, doctrine, or assumption

b (1) : a rule or code of conduct

(2) : habitual devotion to right principles

• a man of principle

c : the laws or facts of nature underlying the working of an artificial device

2 : a primary source : origin

3 a : an underlying faculty or endowment

• such principles of human nature as greed and curiosity

b : an ingredient (such as a chemical) that exhibits or imparts a characteristic quality

4 capitalized, Christian Science : a divine principle : god

— in principle

: with respect to fundamentals

• prepared to accept the proposition in principle

Principles are your foundation from which you grow from, make decisions from & form your ideas, beliefs & emotions.   What are yours?  Are you living lined up with your principles?  How are your goals in life, are they from your principles?   

Where do you get your principles from?  Is it handed down from your family?  Religious base?  Books you have read?  What you learned from your schooling?  

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Standing In Judgement

Do you stand in judgement over someone?   How is that going for  ya?  Do you see & feel a healthy relationship growing between you & that person?   Are you having trouble "helping" a person be better?  Are you just trying to help someone & all there is more trouble?   

Did the person you are standing in judgement over ask you to judge them?  Did they ask for your opinion over/in their lives?  Or did you just give it?  Are you standing in judgement over someone because you care about them or does it make you feel better?    

What is in your heart for that person you are standing in judgement?  Is your judgement really helping or just driving more of a wedge between you?   So is standing in judgement really working? 

How do you want to change the way you are doing things?  Did you really want to have a relationship with that person?  So you really want to help this person?  Or are you just doing what you do to feel better about yourself?   What is the reason for your actions?   Are you on a high horse?

  

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Freedom VS Slavery

To start with, here are some Bible verses to think about.

Bible verse on it- 

Freedom: 

1 Corinthians 7:22 (NIV)" For the one who was a slave when called to faith in the Lord is the Lord’s freed person; similarly, the one who was free when called is Christ’s slave."-refers to spiritual & natural freeman.   

Slavery: 

Leviticus 19:20(KJV) 

" And whosoever lieth carnally with a woman, that is a bondmaid, betrothed to an husband, and not at all redeemed, nor freedom given her; she shall be scourged; they shall not be put to death, because she was not free."

Definition of each one- 

Freedom from Merriam-Webster Dictionary: 

1 :the quality or state of being free: such as  

a :the absence of necessity, coercion, or constraint in choice or action  

b :liberation from slavery or restraint or from the power of another :independence  

c :the quality or state of being exempt or released usually from something onerous  

• freedom from care 

d :ease, facility  

• spoke the language with freedom 

e :the quality of being frank, open, or outspoken  

• answered with freedom 

f :improper familiarity  

g :boldness of conception or execution  

h :unrestricted use 

2 a :a political right  

b :franchise, privilege  

Slavery from Merriam-Webster Dictionary: 

1 :drudgery, toil  

2 :submission to a dominating influence  

3 a :the state of a person who is a chattel of another  

b :the practice of slaveholding  

Now ask yourself which one do you live by? Are you living like a slave or walking in freedom? 

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Common Cold

Common Cold,  how do you deal with it?

When we feel like our bodies are fighting off a cold we do a few things.  What do you do to help your body stay health or fight off a cold or get rid of one or lessen the suffering of a cold? 

At my house we do our best to get plenty of rest, good healthy diet & fresh air.  But when we get run down or come across someone who shares their germs with us we have a few good things we do.   

The first is pray, we thank God for good health.   Then we address the discomforts of the cold by, plenty of water, chicken broth, rest, pain relief for aches & pains, stock up on Kleenex & warm baths or showers.  Then to help our bodies to fight we drink elderberry tea, Eucalyptus/peppermint tea, lemon/ginger tea,  elderberry lozenges, honey, spicy stuff to eat, apple cider vinegar & Vernors (cause we are from Michigan), vitamin C is increased, so is zinc.   Some rare times a little whiskey in the hot lemon tea & honey for the extreme sore throats to get relief.   We even get some air aromas going too!  

We use what works for us.  Of course it works for us, if it didn't we would not use it!!   This is just what we use for the common cold.   We may not use all of it at once, all depends on how the cold wants to hit.  The kids are not a fun of the tea's.   But they drink it know, they rather drink tea than have a lasting cold.    

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Fall Colors

Fall colors are a time of change.  Spring & Summer are over, growth of plants stop or slow down.  Some people start to fall into seasonal depression.  Some get ready for the winter fun times.  What do you do in the fall?   Do you go on color tours with family & friends?  Hit the cider mill?  Confirm your Holiday plans with family, friends or your job?  Get your household & cars are for winter? Do you doing nothing different?  Do you live in the north & head south, run from the snow & cold?  Make plans for next Summer?

How do you handle change?  Sometimes we need help handling different changes in life.  Some of us can jump from one to the other with ease.  But there is some who it takes time & can not be rushed. It's all ok.  Each person is created different.  The ones who can jump into to change with no problem, must not rush those who need time.  

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Human Trafficking

Human Trafficking is a very heavy topic to talk about.  Some may not want to talk about it & some even deny it is happening around where they live.  Sad to say it is all around us.  Yes, even in the United States, it's just not another country far way or what horror films are made of.  

My family & church family have been praying & trying to bring this darkness into light.  I'll be sharing a lot of links to information either about it or where you can go for help if you are in it or know someone who is involved it will be later in this blog post.  

There is hope in this dark problem.  There is help.  We all can make a difference.   It's not just about the victims who are locked into this.  But the people who hold the victims prisoners & the people who buy the victims.  We can pray for them all.  There is help for them all.   I know it is hard to not want death to those who imprison the victims & for those who buy the victims.  I'm not saying they get off Scott Free.   But I'm saying let's get to the root of the problem.

Getting to the root of the problem will help end this.  How do we view life & lives?!  How do we value each other?  It's just a start.  

Here's a link to Focus on the Family. They have some bible verses that talk about human trafficking.

https://www.focusonthefamily.com/pro-life/life-and-justice/20-scriptures-on-human-trafficking

Here are the links on Human Trafficking, some are info on it & some are help links.

Description of what it is:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_trafficking

Exodus Cry info:

http://exoduscry.com/

Help Links:

https://humantraffickinghotline.org/state/michigan

http://www.michigan.gov/mdhhs/0,5885,7-339-73971_7119_71039---,00.html

http://courts.mi.gov/administration/scao/officesprograms/cws/pages/human-trafficking.aspx

https://humantraffickinghotline.org/ 

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Thanksgiving

This post is short one, but it gives lots to think about. 

Thanksgiving is not celebrate around the world.  That was news to the kids.  With the info why, they got it.  It is an American "holiday".   It started them to think deeper on what would be different if the events of separation  from Great Britain did not happen. 

Freedom of religion would not be for starters & the Fourth of July would not even be on the calendar.   Thanksgiving dinner not happening either.  So how would your life be different?  What impact would it have on your life?   Does it make your list to be thankful for even longer?  Did ours.    Yes, we are grateful for all that we have & all who are in our lives.  But the stuff like freedom of religion, freedom from a lot of things & the rights we have as a free country, you can't touch the gratitude we have for it all. 

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10 Commandments (Exodus 20:3-17)/Jesus said

Here's what the Old Testament gave us to follow & what the New Testament said for us to follow.  It's the same.  I state this since I have heard people say what's in the Old Testament does not apply to us today.  That is  wrong.  The New Testament does not say we can drop what was told in the Old Testament but the New Testament reconfirms it.  

Exodus 20:3 "You shall have no other gods before Me."

Matthew 4:10 "Jesus said to him, "Away from me, Satan! For it is written:" Worship the Lord your God, and serve him only."

Exodus 20:4-6 "You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sins of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to thousands generations of those who love me and keep my commandments."

Luke 16:13 "No servant can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money."

Exodus 20:7 "You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God, for the Lord will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name."

Matthew 5:33-37 "Again, you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, "Do not break your oath, but keep the oaths you have made to the Lord. But I tell you, Do not swear at all; either by heaven, for it is God's throne; or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the Great King. And do not swear by your own head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. Simply let your Yes be Yes and your No, No; anything beyond this comes from evil one."

Exodus 20:8-11 "Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but on the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your manservant or maidservant, nor your animals, nor the alien within your gates. For the six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy."

Mark 2:27-28 "Then he said to them, "The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.  So the Son Of Man is Lord even of the Sabbath."

Exodus 20:12 " Honor your father and mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.

Luke 2:51-52 "Then he went down to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them. But his mother treasured all of these things  in her heart.  And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.

Exodus 20:13 "You shall not murder."

Matthew 5:21 "You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, "Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgement."

Exodus 20:14 "You shall not commit adultery."

Matthew 5:27-28 "You have heard what was said, "Do not commit adultery." But I tell you that anyone who looks at another woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Exodus 20:15 "You shall not steal."

Luke 12:15 "Then he said to them," Watch out! Be on your guard against greed; a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions."

Exodus 20:16 "You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor."

Matthew 12:36-37 "But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgement for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned."

Exodus 20:17 "You shall not covet your neighbor's house, You shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor."

 Luke 12:15 " Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against greed; a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions."

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