TBI Part 4

Living with someone who has a TBI may not be the easiest.   You see the same person that you knew before the life changing event, but they are not the same person or will ever be that same person.  How do you move forward with that?

It's like the picture at the top, same body of water, but one side is very choppy & rough & the other is claim & peaceful. The only thing that is making it different is a breaker wall.   That is a poor example of what life is like with living with a person with a TBI.   Please don't get me wrong, I'm not bashing anyone here.  Just sharing what life is like.  

At times you can say it is like being married to a stranger.   After 20 years of marriage & that is not including the time dating, then one day everything changes as you know it.   How do you move forward in a relationship?

In everyday life, I as the spouse of a TBI have the same responsibilities as before the event that is not including the load I picked up after the event.    You might be thinking, but isn't that what marriage is?  You help each other out in tough times.   Yes, you do.  It's not about helping each other through the tough times.  When the person you grew to know know over the years, now has changed on the inside how do you move forward?   Changed even with their likes & dislikes of food.  Not saying run for the hills.  

After a TBI it can change the goals & dreams you both shared & looked forward to before the TBI.  It may take some time to dream new dreams & goals.   During the time of laying down the old dreams & goals can be very painful.  Having a good support group around you will help.   How do you move forward?

Moving forward is not easy.  You pick to move forward with the person everyday.  You make the choice to fight to stay together.   It could have been very easy to run for the hills at times, but easy is not always what you want in the end.   Having a good support group helps.   

Having a good support group is not just family & friends.  But having someone who has walked & is walking through the same stuff you are dealing with.   I go with my husband to his group therapy every week.  I have learned more about TBI there than on the internet, books or doctors.  Getting around people & talking about what is going on, what works & what does not work helps.  Knowing you are not by yourself helps.   

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Sovereign

 In Daniel 4:25 it states that God, Most High, is sovereign over all kingdoms.  Have you ever just stop & think about what that means?  How many times have we just took the face value of the words?

Daniel 4:25 New International Version (NIV)

^" You will be driven away from people and will live with the wild animals; you will eat grass like the ox and be drenched with the dew of heaven. Seven times will pass by for you until you acknowledge that the Most High is sovereign over all kingdoms on earth and gives them to anyone he wishes."

Sovereign is unlimited!!  God is unlimited over all the kingdoms on earth & gives them to anyone he (God) wishes.   Why do we still try to do everything ourselves?   We are not sovereign.  We have limits.   We are not all powerful.   Why do we keep trying to rule everything?  

It may be time to rethink how we are thinking who is in charge.   We get free choice, free will to pick what we want.   Even with all of our freedom God is still sovereign, we are not. 

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Edge of the Storm Part 3

In part 1 & 2,  I wrote about gaze a little & trust.   In part 3 I'm going to be touching base on gaze & walking in peace.   

What to have your gaze on while walking in peace?  In Genesis 43, Joseph was living in Egypt away from his family.   He was working for the Pharaoh.   Joseph went through a lot different storms to get to the place he was at.   He was in charge of the food storage.  Joseph's family came to Egypt looking for food since their home land was having a famine.   In verses 23 Joseph was greeting his brothers.  

Genesis 43:23 King James Version (KJV)

^" And he said, Peace be to you, fear not: your God, and the God of your father, hath given you treasure in your sacks: I had your money. And he brought Simeon out unto them."   

The peace that he is referring to means burdens.  His family hit hard times.  God had a master plan  that lead up to this point in time.  At this point, Joseph had food to share with his family so they would not go hungry.   Joseph had to go through a bunch of different storms to get that point in time. 

For Joseph to get through all the storms, he had to keep his gaze locked on God & trust that God  had a plan for him & all that he needed was taken care of.  Joseph was faced with chances to let his peace go.  Joseph kept his gaze on God, kept his peace & feared not.  Joseph only had God & himself during his storms.    

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Routine Health Check Up

After a routine health check up, I got the call.   They want to run more tests cause the found 2.2cm of something & not sure what it is.  And from now on, I'll have to get a yearly mammogram. When you receive basic information with little to no details what is going on with your body, is very frustrating.

What do you do?  Little or no information to know what is going on with your body.   It's a huge waiting game till more tests can be ran.  Then you can feel like a guinea pig.   Plus all the different emotions that come flooding in.  Your head can start to spin.   This a good time to stop, take a great big breathe & relax.  No matter what the test results are, you gotta look at all the emotions that are flooding you.  

The emotions can be overwhelming.  But once you face them & deal with them, the rest will fall in to place.  I had a great support group.  My family & friends gathered around me, prayed for me & went with me to appointments.  No reason to face any problem by yourself.   

After one test for me, everything came back to be nothing.  Yes, nothing!!   Very relieved & grateful, prayers worked.  I can look forward to my once a year mammogram.  Even though there was nothing found after farther looking, I still get the once a year mammogram.  

Who do you have in your support group?  

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